- Posted by: Sanjeev
- 28 May, 2019
Family Caretakers in Your Absence
How To Keep A Check on Family Caretakers; Tutors, Nurses, Nannies, Servants, Guards, etc. In Your Absence?
The parent-child relationship is a combination of love, behaviour, care, emotions, feelings, and expectations. Whether we are a child to ageing parents or a newly announced parent our self; the relationship has a two-way feeling; the love for our parents and the children is the same, and their security is of paramount importance.
While we all think of pursuing a career and achieving the desired job profile, it comes with a price in return. It's true that the life of parents revolves around their child; parents are the first teachers in a child's life. Parents play the most pivotal role in nurturing the child and shaping their adult lives. Parenting is a crucial period in everyone's life where life restarts with the toddler. It is said that a mother grows with the steps of her child and learns about the new phase every moment. But the advent of modern life where both the parents are working and are busy with their professional commitments, the care for their young ones lacks behind.
In the race of professional success, people may have more income to spend on their child, but they lack time to spend with them. Earlier with the joint family system, it was easier to nurture a child under the shadow of loving elders and caring family members. Other than the mother the child was taken care of by the grandparents, uncles and aunts, the growth period of the child was a family responsibility. But as the concept of joint families seems to be declining, the nuclear families are mushrooming all over the country. This has increased the number of working parents leaving their children alone at home with no elders to take care of them.
There are families today in which both the parents are working and they cannot be available to care for the child or their ailing aged parent at every moment. It is possible that the families are out for business venture for days leaving behind their children under the care of the "virtual parents". These people pretend of nurturing and parenting the child in our absence.
The same problem is more saddening when it comes to taking care of our elderly parents. It is true that our parents do reach a stage in life when some of them are not able to drive on their own anymore, they can't climb stairs, or maybe are not able to feed themselves, cannot take their medicines or are suffering from acute malady where they need to be under care of someone all the time. In such difficult times, we need to be nearby them remembering the days when they nurtured us with all that love and care that they need today. But with the present-day world, we are bind to professional responsibilities that are overpowering our personal relationships with the family.
HIRING A CARETAKER
Both our parents and children need to be taken care behind the back. It is for this purpose that a family caretaker such as nannies or babysitters for children and nurses and other caretakers are appointed for elderly and ailing parents or grandparents at home. We need to be sure that the hiring process is done with complete authentication. Before hiring a caretaker for there are a few security measures to consider, such as- the age, gender, experience of the nanny or the babysitter. Comprehensive background verification of the person is mandatory. Also, have an explicit look at the resume of the person and consider the reference they provide. This will help to not only know about the childcare experience but also that what amount of time they have spent in the care of every child in the professional period. If the caretaker holds a background of multiple jobs switching, then it can be a matter of concern.
The experience that the nanny or the other caretakers hold is an essential factor. Check for their previous working record; if they are trustworthy, and are reliable to leave the children under their care. We need to have an identity check on the personal details such as the address, their documentation, criminal record verifications, etc.
More importantly, in most of the nanny scam cases as noticed these days it has become compulsorily significant to a have a check on the behaviour and habits of the caretakers. Some of them may have a serious addiction to drugs or other substances that can cause serious harms to the health of the child. We do not know what these inattentive attendees are doing with the child on our back. They may be exploiting the child or introducing these poisonous substances to the child which may deteriorate the health of the baby.
The children below the age group of five; are the most vulnerable. These kids are not much expressive to their parents about the problems they go through the entire day. This period of a child's growth is of utter innocence where their minds can be easily moulded to any shape, direction, and structure.
These caretakers may be harassing the child as in many cases witnessed these days. The cases of sexual abuse are not new to the country. The problem of sexual abuse in children below the age of five is the highest. In most of the cases, the child is abused by the family members or by the people closest. For babysitters such children are easy prey; they exploit the vulnerability of the child to gain sexual gratifications. This also involves mental, emotional physical abuse. These delusive people may even torture the child for revealing their problems to the parents.
According to a recent case that happened in Delhi- A three-year-old boy given under the care of a nanny in the absence of the parents. Both the parents were working day and night to provide a better future to the child and expected to give him a lavish and wealthy life. The parents were leaving no stone unturned to make a prospective future for their child in which they could not spend much time with the baby. The nanny of the child was supposed to be a well behaved and cultured lady who was said to be well educated as well. Every evening when the parents arrive home they asked the child about his day and experience but the child would not say anything in return. The health of the child was continually deteriorating. The family was not sure about the reason for a change in the baby's behaviour and health until one day when the mother notices skin rashes on the body of the baby. When the parents consulted a doctor, they were told that the boy was exposed to the harsh sun for hours and was also suffering from dehydration.
The family was clueless as they had deep trust in the nanny. But after the entire investigation, the hidden aspects of the nanny were revealed. The kid was forced into "child beggary". Nanny was using the child to earn some extra money.
Such cases create a wave of distress in the society where even the most vulnerable are not secured and protected from the eyes of such frauds and evil minds. This is just one instance to share from a thousand stories roaring on the internet and print media.
HOW CAN PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR HELP?
It is not like that if we aren't able to spend much quality time with the children, makes us a bad, inattentive or negligent parent. We work to craft out a better organized, framed and shaped future for our loving young. The responsibilities of being a good parent also include providing them with a financially secured future. So while we are not physically present with the children all the time, does not mean our love for them reduces. To have a discreet view of our children's lives with their nannies at home or in the play area, etc. Investigation DDS Detective Agency in Delhi can be employed. The investment is worth as it provides peace of mind to immensely busy parents.
The services of a private detective are also of great help in keeping a watch on elderly parents along with the caretakers or nurses. Let's have a look at the services provided by private detectives in such cases-
A private detective is a highly trained professional; they specialize in providing a personalized approach to the investigation process. The first and foremost duty of the investigator is to read the details of the case and target the concerned areas defined by the client.
The investigator may get in a private conversation with the client. The conversation may include a discussion over the reasons that led the parents to avail for the services of a private investigator, such as- do they doubt the child's babysitter or servants at home, is the child more dreaded these days or is the child suffering from unreasonably deteriorating health conditions, etc.
The investigation can be started with the process of installing hidden and highly covert cameras to the home of the client. This can help have a discreet watch on the activities of these caretakers and will help know their genuine behaviour with the child; if the caretaker is rather inattentive to the child, not feeding the kid at a time or is exploit the child in any way.
The investigator can also help provide with the audio-video recorders that can easily be camouflaged with the surroundings or even to the accessories of the child which be with them all the time such as a pendant, toy or other stuff.
If there is a doubt about the caretaker being careless in the pubic area or during the playtime of the child, the private investigator can help with the services of physical surveillance on the child and the caretaker.
Physical surveillance is the most productive and successful tool of an investigator. This is used to keep a watch on the activities of the subject. The Investigator can follow up the child to the garden and play area to observe the activities from a close range.
In case of nursing the old, ailing parents or grandparents; the investigator can help provide video surveillance as well as physical surveillance services. If the aged are unable to feed themselves or are suffering from paralysis or other medical disorder where they cannot do even the basics for themselves, proper surveillance can prove of divulging the facts of their caretakers.
It is highly crucial to keep an eye on the aged infirm; such as if they are feed on time, with the right dosage of medicines, right diet, or if they are not fed at all. Have they been subjected to unreasonable hatred by the caretaker, etc?
A caregiver is a person who assists in administering the physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual health of the infirm. Social welfare of the patient is also important. The principal task of the caregiver is to ensure that the infirm are taken care depending on the ailment of the patient. So with the help of the detective, a watch can be kept on the caretaker to ensure if they are reliable and trustworthy to their duties.
A private detective can get the access of hidden cameras and audio recorders which can be used to keep a watch on the activities of these caretakers even from thousands of miles away from home via mobile phones, computer or laptop, and other such gadgets.
The private detective can be hired to get a peace of mind in case of security of our loved ones who are the most vulnerable to the threats of exploitations, abuse, harassments, and more. The sole responsibility of the private investigator is to provide authentic and veracious details about the caretakers that are employed to look over our family in our absence. The private investigators are masters at the skill of bringing truth from the underneath; they can bring a broader picture of the subject to identify the loopholes in their services provided.
Dds detective is a Private Detective Agency in Delhi that has networks covering the length and breadth of India and also takes assignments from around the globe. The company is well known for delivering the best on-time services and excels in the field of personal investigations category. Choosing this agency can be a good option for person surveillance investigations.
